To those who said, "do what you want, it's your wedding!" YOU'RE RIGHT!
And to those who said, "give them what they want, it will make them happy!" YOU'RE RIGHT!
The truth is that they're the same thing. I should do what I want... and what I want is for my guests to be happy. I also want to save money where possible so that's where I need to step back and take a look at my priorities:
As you can see, "happy guests" at number three overrules "affordable budget" at number five. While I do want to save money where I can, I'm going to try to stick to cutting back in the "unique elements" and "pretty things" categories.
So, yes, we will have $150 (unless I can negotiate it down) worth of coffee at the wedding. I mean, if I really planned the whole day around exactly what I would want the wedding to be like, there wouldn't be any meat, alcohol, or coffee. The whole thing would start at sunrise and we would eat nothing but ice cream while we sat around and talked at the dance-free reception. I'm not kidding... a wedding geared towards my exact tastes wouldn't be so much of a crowd pleaser. A wedding geared towards what I want, now that'll be worth attending.
How do you prioritize your wedding wants? What would be at the base and top of your cake?
PS Please note that wanting to "maintain my sanity" overrides making the guests happy. I just might have to draw the line in some places!
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Kasey, your rationalization and response are spot on! I only wish I had truly thought of my priorities so clearly when I got married...and your wedding cake diagram is the perfect visual!
Be happy, keep your sanity, and keep up the great work.
My big things are: a cool setting (check), food for my guests (and generally making them happy), and awesome photos to remember the event. My ratios are a bit skeewompus, according to how things typically go.
I wish someone had told me when I got married "you can't make all of your guests 100% happy." It's about making yourselves happy and the people you care about most......family.
If you're happy (and reasonable in what you provide guests) those who care about you will be happy *because* you're happy.
As for coffee, I'm a total caffeine addict, but I wouldn't expect coffee at an event - and I'm pretty sure there are a couple religious groups that discourage it as well - are all their weddings unhappy?
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