As I briefly mentioned last week, my bridal party pictures won't look anything like this...
...or even this...
...because this is really more my style:
It's not about the makeup, hair, or dresses in the pictures above, it's about the simplicity. I've decided that choosing one single bridesmaid is the right one for me. I just can't seem to come up with any solid cons to going with this plan.
Pros:
1. I'll keep all of my friends. This is really my biggest fear behind having a large group. I don't want them to get mad at me for picking the wrong dress and I don't want to get mad at them for not showing up on time. Weddings are giant life events that bring out the best and worst in people... and I'm happy with my relationships as they are now!
2. Nobody gets their feelings hurt. Well, I did ask my sister to be Maid of Honor, but who will get jealous of that?!
3. The pictures will always make sense. I won't have to look back at my wedding album and wonder, "Whatever happened to Susan? Too bad we lost touch ten years ago."
4. It will be less expensive... for everyone. They won't have to worry about hosting parties or buying clothes that they'll never wear again and I'll have fewer bouquets to order.
5. Less stress all around. My friends don't have to show up with duties and I don't have too keep tabs on them while worrying about wedding planning. Win-win!
Cons?
1. It won't be as much fun. Hmm, depends on your definition of fun! If I'm feeling any need for girls to help me get ready or do any wedding crafts, I'll be sure to give my friends a call.
2. My friends won't feel honored. I definitely don't want this to happen. Hopefully the other wedding plans I have will help to avoid this!
What's your bridal party going to look like?
What factors influenced your decision to ask your bridesmaids?
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Hey Kasey, I made a similar choice--just had my two sisters as bridesmaids. It was the perfect decision for me, and it made things so simple! I did order several pashmina wraps in our wedding colors, though, for all my girlfriends, and we were able to take a group photo together as my "extended wedding party." It made them feel more included, but didn't require any work on their part!
Two good friends of mine got married in April in Hawaii. The bride's best friend was her maid of honor, but all of her friends helped out in any way they could. She made a point to thank them at every possible moment and the only thing they were left out of was the ceremony itself. It was a perfect balance.
I think thats a great idea. If your other friends want to help you can always assign them little things to do.
I did something very similar too! I had my brother and my sister stand up for me (I know, REALLY untraditional, but who cares?). It's definitely MUCH much easier and you save a boatload on flowers!
I totally support your decision of keeping the wedding party slim! In fact when I do finally take the plunge I don't want a wedding party at all!!!
I think you made the right choice for you! It really is less of a headache to have fewer bridesmaids.
I think it makes so much sense to keep a wedding party small! Hubs and I each chose our BFF as our person of honor, and also had our younger siblings stand up with us {my bro for me, his sisters for him}.
Both hubs and I were in a wedding party the year before ours and the groom refused to cut out any of his 'friends'. Not all of them were committed wedding party members and it got a bit awkward for those of us who were.
Totally off the topic of this post: I think it's funny that on my engagement post you said "I'm not sure why but I felt it was coming!" I have been trying to resist posting on this blog, since I wasn't engaged yet and I just felt weird chiming in a little preemptively. Now that I think about it, that's dumb though. Anyway, here I am!
As for the bridesmaid situation, I think I will do like you and just go with my sister and my SIL. I'm sure my friends will still help out, and I'll think of another way to honor them, but I really don't want to make that many people buy the same dress- there's bound to be someone who will hate it!
Seriously smart planning. My best friend got married last summer with 7 bridesmaids (i think...i know I was one of them) and it seriously brought out the worst in people!!
I also had a very small party! I didn't even have to hardly thing about who I was going to ask and I am so glad that I just decided to go with my 2 sisters. because, out of the friends I could have asked, I am no longer close at all with one of them, and have lost contact with another years ago! And I have only been married for over 7 years! And yes I agree, it is alot less stressful to have only one or two!
We are only having my brother stand up for me (my 'man' of honor) and his sister stand up for him (his best 'woman') it's very nontraditional and I love it!
Just found your blog!
My Fiance and I have three brothers between us, and no sisters. So I chose three friends to stand up, although there are no honor attendants and we are having all three brothers sign as witnesses.
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